We spend a lot of our time taking care of our bodies. But what about our emotional hygiene? Do we take care about our emotions and our minds with the same diligence as we take care of our bodies? You probably have the answer to this question. What is obvious is that since we were child we have never been taught to deal with our emotions.
Psychologist Guy Winch in one of the TED talks explains the danger of ignoring our emotional hygiene. After 9 years of studies he discovered that there are some responses of our minds that are playing dangerous games with us. And there are certain habits that we should start practicing in order to be emotionally healthy, the same way as we have a habit to brush our teeth.
What are these “dangerous” responses?
According to Guy Winch, the most common is our
response to FAILURE.
Are we aware of how our brain responds to failure? He states that majority of people functioning below their actual potential, just because single failure in their lives convinced them of something that they are not capable to do.
Our mind is hard to change, once we are convinced about something.
You might have tried once, and you failed. But the question is – did you believe that you are not good enough? And you stopped trying? This is when your mind convinced you that this is not worth trying again.
As a response to failure, Guy Winch explains that:
We cannot allow ourselves to become convinced of not being successful
We need to fight our feelings of helplessness – we are responsible for our success
We need to gain control over the situation – we can prepare better, learn and try again